NB2010: Instant Gratification
I have just begun my journey to natural at 9 weeks post. I’ve been soooo excited about it and I haven’t been feeling anything negative about transitioning…until I looked in the mirror just now. I mean, I’m not transitioning because I don’t like my relaxed hair. I do! My relaxed hair is usually soft and manageable, and I like the length. On one hand, I’m excited to get to long, natural hair, but on the other hand, I’m going to have to have short hair (I’m not a fan because of my long neck) for at least 4 years before my hair is a length that I’ll be comfortable with (unstretched). This has always been my problem with long term goals. That’s why I give up when I start a workout routine or trying to eat better foods. Because the results aren’t instant, I give up! Well, not this time. As a matter of fact, I’m going to start working out again, too. I HAVE to overcome this issue I have with completing tasks that take longer than 2 months to see results!
I talked to hubby about it, because he knows how to finish long term goals. (For example, when I first met him, he didn’t ever work out. Then one day on his own, he started going to the gym every day for the last four years without complaint. I want to be able to do the same with growing my natural hair).
Anyways, getting back to the subject, I showed him some Youtube videos on girls with natural hair and I also showed him that I can learn to do flat twists (by actually doing one), and he’s already become more accepting. As I mentioned to you before, I think one of his biggest concerns is that I don’t know how to style natural hair and he thinks I’m going to just walk around with my hair all messy. He’s now on board with the transitioning. After talking to him about my feelings about long term goals, he told me that I have to overcome that American mentality of instant gratification in order to reach those goals. I wonder…how DO I conquer my “instant gratification” issues? I think conquering this problem will help me in a lot of areas in life. We shall see!